I agree about not taking it personally. I was thrilled recently when the wife of one of AH's business associates asked me to lunch. They don't live here, but come here to visit family. I met her for lunch. I thought she was so gorgeous (she's a grandmother), so classy. I had my game face on, sitting up straight, careful not to slurp my soup, lol. The next thing I knew, she was asking if I like to gamble. What? Ah, sure I guess.
So, she next invited me to go to a casino with her that weekend. I agreed. We were there for EIGHT HOURS. This woman, who doesn't even live here, knew so many people at the tables. She didn't want to leave. I didn't complain too much. I was up for a long time and then broke even.
But I declined her offer to go again the next week. Then I heard from her family members, that she'll go with anyone. She wasn't trying to get to know me. She just wanted someone to go with her, because her family had stopped going.
Aha! Wow, what a wakeup call. She used me. I don't take it personal. I feel bad for her husband, who I think is a charming man.
That was my first exposure to someone addicted to gambling. But if it's like alcohol, they will do whatever is necessary to continue the addiction.
She can assume whatever she wants as far as what the judge will say. But I can't imagine a judge would grant her full custody, particularly with her problem. Make sure you have your financial records to prove the draining funds.