GP...
I don't know that answer to this... it is way too complicated for me to even touch... My gut says something but I don't want to persuade you either way...
I would suggest analyzing your desired outcome and possilbe outcomes... and how the outcomes make you feel... and then work back and see if you can determine the motive for your actions...
ie... you pull her aside and talk to her... and
1.) she tells you off..
2.) she doesn't say anything... but nods and says she think about what you said
3.) she justifies her actions and attempts to debate with you
4.) she says she really likes you but you didn't seam interested...
5.) fill in the blank...
also you could take a look at the outcomes of not doing anything...
what do you want to happen... ?
... I don't know if this will help you but this kind of excercise has helped me analyse some very difficult decisions in my life...