Opinions needed, 13th stepping ?
Major insomnia tonight. The first time in a while. Anyway...
What's the general consensus on an AA with 7 years sobriety (male) dating a female with 6 months ? They're keeping it a secret from the fellowship.
This is a friend of mine (the female). I also learned recently that in her 6 months, she also ended a long term relationship before dating this guy.
I'm interested in her, yes, but I also care for her. I really like her as a fellow AA and as a human being. I've watched her grow since she got a sponsor (who doesn't know), and I'm concerned. I'm just at a loss at what to do.
Do I just stay out of it ? It IS past my nose, and therefore none of my business.
Do I approach her ? She may think I'm jealous or have other ulterior motives.
Do I have someone else approach her ? Another female ? I don't think she's told her females friends. As a matter of fact, her females friends probably think her and I are doing the dance.
Do I tell her sponsor ?
And yes, I've prayed over it. Repeatedly. My gut says to pull her aside & have a talk with her. My gut says she's being 13th stepped. And my gut says he knows he's doing something he shouldn't be.
Yes Barb, if you're reading this, it's " her".