whao .. you pay his rent and health insurance ?? it straps you so that you cannot travel when you would like to ?? This is bad . You dont HAVE to do that , you CHOOSE to do that .
Its even worse that your grandchild is older , you should be leading my example how to live a healthy life and you are not doing it . Your life and your decisions that pertain to your life are completely dependent on another person .... does that sound healthy to you ?? not only are you dependent on another person but its another person that isnt healthy .
You have 2 choices . You can continue to be wrapped up in your AS's life and put your life on hold . Or you can run to an al-anon meeting , hate everyone in the room for telling you the rest of your family is right and you are hurting your son more than helping him ... and then keep going until you 'get it'