I think at some point all of us have done things to manipulate/control our A's drinking. I put my husband in jail. I wanted someone other then me to tell him that he had a problem. Jail worked for a few days, but then he was back to saying he is not a drunk....and the AODA guy basically confirmed to him that he didnt have a problem by saying he was just abusing alcohol.
Now we are back to the battle...but someday he will wake up.
I just have to say that I love this forum. I dont think I could make it through the hard times without knowing that there are people out there who know and understand what I go through every single day...and yet allow me to vent, cry and moan without added pressure to make a move.