Most alcoholics do that, hon.
They want to quit, but they want to do it painlessly, and their way. What they don't realize at the time is ... 'their way' is what got them into the trouble they're in.
Basically, they want to get sober, but stay high.
Sometimes, I have a hard time with the people who want to quit but don't want AA.
The Program and Fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous .. saved my life.
It's no simpler than that.
But I had to be willing.
And I had to drop the pride card.
Doesn't sound like she's really there.
Prayers for your well being.