ditto to everything...I am amazed you have lasted 2 years, I am 10 months into the abf's relapse and when I look back our relationship was great until he took that first toke of coke of his relapse. I have always thought that moment was the true end of our relationship, and the last ten months have just been an exercise in both our masochistic sides.
all I can say is that for ten months he has said he would quit and for ten months he has gone back and stolen from me and his parents and put his addiction ahead of everything else, he is morally bankrupt, emotionally abusive, often times cruel, and has wasted every penny he has had on drinking and drugs.
this disease sucks.