Wow gal, you are going through a lot. It would really help you for starters to read the stickies at the top. I will offer this advice:
1. you are right: He places cocaine over you. When addicts are in active addiction, that is all they care about--their drugs. Period.
2. You are wrong: he does NOT have complete control over your emotions, you do. If you learn to control your emotions, rein them in, meditate, examine your every feeling, move and thought objectively instead of letting your mind run away like a train, you will learn that NO ONE CONTROLS YOUR MIND....you can.
3. If there is an Naranon, or even an Alanon group in your area, please please go to a meeting even if you are scared and nervous. It will help you a lot
4. Read Melody Beattie's book "Co-Dependent No More". I can tell by what you've said that you are extremely co-dependent and this will help you a lot too.
Here is a ((HUG)) and a prayer that you keep coming back and get strong enough to do what you need to do to be happy and at peace.