Mindy, Welcome to SR. We are listening and we hear your pain. I am very sorry that you come here under such unfortunate circumstances, but you will find wisdom and support in the discussions. I, too, have a son who is an addict. My son has also taken advantage of my motherly-codie instincts. He is currently in detox and I have hope that he has reached his real bottom.
I have learned many lessons about my enabling ways from members of this forum. I am working on my recovery one little step at a time. You will find that there are many parents, siblings, children, spouses and lovers who share our pain and are willing to support each other.
It is hard when we recognize how prevalent drugs are in our society. There is no place to get away from them.
I must leave now to get to my Alanon meeting. I will send prayers your way for you and your children.