That reminds me of a quote that I wrote down way back when..
"To be inaccessible means you touch the world around you sparingly. You don’t eat five quail; you eat one. You don’t use and squeeze people until they have shriveled to nothing, especially the people you love. A hunter knows he will lure game into his traps over and over again, so he doesn’t worry. To worry is to become accessible. And once you worry you cling to anything out of desperation; and once you cling you are bound to get exhausted or to exhaust whoever or whatever you are clinging to."
-don Juan “Journey to Ixtlan by Carlos Castaneda