it's not even about the money, cause I'm really not hurting for money, it just seems like a stab in the back. and I'm just really not sure if this friend is just that ignorant or that unfeeling that she would do something like that! i mean, if you're crying poverty, you spend the money on things you need, not things you want. I lived out of car with J a couple of years back when things got bad with xabf. We took as much as we could, and stashed away what money i was making and what money i had and scrimped on the lowest of low money for the basic needs to get the money together for a deposit on an apartment. But she, lives beyond her means. She has money coming in, and her exbf gives her child support, and now I'm finding out that her mother has been buying her groceries, and that she has a trip planned in the upcomming months! Is it rude or is she just stupid or is she just playing everyone?