Turning the tables and trying to make it your fault that they are failing. Not keeping appointments, sleeping the day away. Having no energy and constant health complaints. Losing or gaining weight. Bills not paid, eviction notices, etc. Living in filth. Not caring about things that they used to care about. My daughter loved the gym and tanning. When she stopped doing that it was always a bad sign. Saying that it is really another problem, like depression. Constant blaming anything or everything except the true problem-drugs. My daughter has tried to make it my fault that she never calls-The "I don't want to be b*tched at" excuse. There are probably lots more, but those are the things that I noticed the most with my daughter. Marle