For me codependency is ALL about settling. Not setting boundaries in my life. Being convinced I can make things better, that it is my responsibility to make things better, that it is my responsibility to do pretty much everything, and settling for that. Being made to believe that when things go right, they go right. When they go wrong, it's my fault, and settling for that.. Feeling out of control, settling for a life desperate for control. Settling for a destructive relationship because it seemed better than the alternative.
Now I am starting to ask for more out of life, not to settle for less than satisfactory circumstances ~ I'm beginning to believe I deserve more.