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just for today 
I spent years rationalizing that I loved him, and therefore in the name of love I was going to stick it out, I was sure that if I loved enough, everything could be conquered..............
........We really suffer from trying to make love out of what love isn't.
just for today,
Thanks for this post, it is so true. I don't know who joey is, but he/she is right on the money!
I spent 25 of my 50 years married to an addict, and now that I have had (basically) no contact with him for five months, and I have spent those months concentrating on myself instead of what I want him to do, it is honestly like a fog has lifted from my brain and I am starting to see the way things really were.....and my part in how they got that way.
It never was the fairy tale I so desperately wanted it to be. And love? I really don't think love had much to do with it at all.
Harsh? Possibly; but, at least for me, very true. The harsh part is realizing that I have lived a lie for the past 25 years and that I chose to do it.
(((hugs)))