just for today............thank you for your post.
Just last night I was on the phone with my sister in law who was telling me tho her brother is in treatment ( my AH) she has little hope for his recovery she says she doesnt feel hes working on his issues.....just avoiding reality for awhile...........and she asked me what I'm "waiting around for" and "how many chances will you give him"
I told her, I LOVE HIM and if theres a chance that things can get better and theres a chance that he can find and keep his recovery that I want to be with him because I LOVE HIM...........yet deep in my head I guess I know that loving him isnt enough to stay and I need to determine what I LOVE and is LOVE returned and what is fear and insecurity............the whole what if he finds recovery after I give up is still one of my biggest issues!!
Anyhow Thank you for your post !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!