nice to meet you, asl. i'm the mom of an alcoholic/addict daughter. my daughter is 23. she goes to aa (young people meetings) and has had inpatient/outpatient treatment. she is seeing an addiction therapist. she's had some relapses. but she doesn't lose hope.
her dad and i go to alanon and get private counseling.
we've had some family counseling as well.
as a mom, i can tell you this - we have to recover too. we are affected by the addiction in different ways than you, but we also struggle.
blessings, and keep posting! k