Welcome Hardroad... Glad to meet you.
Im the adult child of an Alcoholic and I have also met and fallen in love with Alcoholics over the years... both active and in recovery.
I have to agree with Best on finding a program to help you work on your personal recovery. If your new love stays sober it will take along time for the mentality to change... he will have a hard fight ahead of him.... to better understand his fight and to make sure you dont loose yourself I would stuggest you work on you. There are reasons why ACoA are attracted to the same people we grew up with... I have personally done alot of reading, program and theraphy to work with my issues on this.
Stick around and check out the boards... your not alone in any of this and there is always someone that has some good insight. I look forward to getting to know you.