Thank you prodigal. I konw its the right thing to do for me and my sons. Its also the right thing to do for AH. He's not ever gonna admit to his disease until he has to face it.
If it weren't for the house payments, this would be a no brainer. I'm going to have to get a lawyer to tell me how to handle that one. I'm going to have to keep up the payments out of the equity line for some period of time (since its in my name too) until a way can be found to make him agree to sell it. But first things first. I learning to accept making baby steps. Although this is a pretty danged big baby step.