Its time to leave
I reached a decision this evening that it is time to leave. After one last attempt to get my AH to understand that his drinking is not at "normal" levels and asking him to go to AA or a recovery program and being told he doesn't have a drinking problem, he can quit whenever he wants but he doesn't want to, yada, yada, yada, I have decided to go apartment hunting tomorrow. I do not intend to tell my AH that I am leaving until its a done deal since I do not need the arguments and drama that are inevitable. In fact I think its probably best to not tell him until the day before and to then ask him to go away while I pack and move out.
Once I'm out, the next step will be to see an attorney and protect my rights concerning our home and draw up a formal separation agreement.
I told my 18 yr old son who lives with us that we will be movign as soon as possible. He was initially surprised but after a few moments the surprise left 'cause he sure knows what life is like around here.
The time has come to separate myself from this man and save my son and myself.