Are you sure it's not the whole being alone thing?? I was scared to death.....not so much of being alone, but more of having to start over. That freaked the hell out of me. The thought that eventually I'd have to pick myself up and go on that first date...........Oh Lord!! It was so much easier to slip back and deal with the BS I knew so well. Although not safe and not healthy............it was safe if you know what I mean.