If being able to drink without getting drunk, throwing up, having accidents, falling off bar stools, etc. is "normal"...God bless those who are spared the so-called "fun" we thought we used to have! Imagine if you were diagnosed with diabetes and had to give up sweets...would you be as angry as you are over not being able to drink? Suppose you had cancer, and could no longer sit in the sun and get that lovely golden brown every summer...would it be worth looking pale, instead of risking your life?
Think of total abstinence from drugs/alcohol as a matter of life and death...because it truly is.