Nitelite,
I am so happy Josh is clean and sober AND working - all very positive things. I so agree with you that the next step is for him to get out on his own. I admire you for taking that stance.
My AD is not working and not doing much about it. Also, although recently out of a rehab, I don't like the vibes I get. The funds for the rental will be out soon, and I don't plan to give any more until some progress is made - (even though the funds are hers technically, I still have guardianship (control) and don't think any more money should be given until she is really really serious about recovery. I hate the position I'm in of having to decide that, but that's the way I feel. As long as she has free money, I don't think she will change.