I think you can do whatever works for you. I have read on the other forums that money is a big trigger for an addict. My husband is not an addict, but I handle all the finances and he gets an allowance. It works for us because he knows how important it is for my security to have the money. If you holding the money makes you both feel more secure, I see no reason why not. He is clean and that is what is important today. Hugs, Marle