thanks everyone! i appreciate your wisdom. My yougest appears to be addicted to drama. Makes me crazy (he's 23) I am painting the basement and 5 times he has moved a piece a furnitire to a wall i asked it not be against because I am steam cleaning carpets and painting (after AS and his AGF moved out with their dogs the basement walls and carpets needed a good cleaning) after washing them i decided they needed to be repainted. I just woke him up and firmly states - i have prepeatedly asked you to leave it alone and I am telling you again - leave it alon - don't touch it I am working - you can help or you can leave it alone - don't touch it again and I walked away - not staying for the insanity dance. I am working on the 'out of here' plan. No more shopping for me - paying doown some other things furiously and will put that $ towards rent or a house payment. I am in the second season of my life and by God i am going to enjoy all the gifts he has in store for me.
Love to all on this board!/M