also been in a very similar situation, hbb, one that still hurts me and that i encounter every day. the pain sucks (a huge understatement)... it was the cheating that hurt me more than the drinking. i continued to fight like an idiot for a long time, and one day i just decided i don't want people like that in my life anymore... and i definitely wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who thinks it's okay to lie and cheat.
(((hbb)))