Originally Posted by
jimhere 
Only if you let them.
Yup...how true. I am realizing that I am not responsible for someone else's experience - only my own.
What Denny said really hit home. I spent so much effort making what he did "ok", putting effort into believing the excuses he gave. Yet I would have found behaviour like this from myself inexcusable. In the end, he never wanted to leave the house...I did and got sick of feeling alone living with him.
Today, I spent the whole day outside, no longer have him or the crisis, and do not feel alone right now. I feel a bit sun-burned!