jeri, i'm so sorry you're going through this... i was in tears reading your post.
this is just my opinion, but i have a hard time believing that he never really loved you. the love he gave you might not have been what you or i or anyone else here would have given to their loved one, but maybe he loved you in the best way he knew how... or the only way. you were a major force in his life, and i truly hope that one day he realizes the love you gave to him, and at the very least, he'll respect it.