Sorry to hear about your situation too, Jeremy. I had a father who was an A who is no longer alive-We all walked away and stopped forcing him-after years of trying to guide him with out suffocating him into treatment. He was a Doctor who saved lives and never drank when on duty or on call-it is a shame to go through and watch such a thing from a man who knew the importance of everyone's life but his own.
It took me many years and I'm still on my journey of learning that if I care for myself and stop trying to force someone else to do something they are not willing to do, I'm alot happier in my life because I'm important too.
I know this is painful Jeremy-I have a brother also and an XAB. Both I chose to walk away from as well.
Keep posting and maybe check out an Al-Anon meeting and see if that is right for you!
((((Hugs)))
And to answer your question it is a "NO" IMHO