I had similar problems in my family although not related to drugs. There was just a lot of drama. I did move 25 years ago and it made the world of difference. I talk to them once in a while over the phone, but the only member of my family that I call is my mom. I know that she is a big codie and so I just listen. I don't give advice and I don't get involved. I sometimes miss my birth family, but I don't miss their petty arguments and jealousies and drama. Hugs, Marle