Depug-
We all want them to be the men we fell in love with and I think we hold on tighter once we get a glimpse of who they "use to be" - because we think, "Hey, they DO have the capacity to become what they once were."
I firmly believe it is this believe that keeps us stuck- at least for me anyways.
I am slowly and painfully learning that the longer I wait around for him to become the man he once was, the more set in my self-destructive and unhealthy ways I become. Whenever I am waiting for someone to do something so I can attain happiness - I know it is me acting like a codie and I must take my life by the reins and direct it.
I understand your frustration and all the comments before me are extremely valuable and everyone is right - his using has NOTHING