and ........hey..........please understand that all of us here are still learning and we make questionable choices too....but one thing I have been trying to do lately before any decision or when I question my feelings or reactions ...........
is that I really take a good hard look at ME and try to see what my motive is for wanting something.............and there have been times when I said it was for the kids but when I really looked at it........it came down to me and my AH........I wanted him to seee the kids or I wanted him to be a part of something.......so he would have motivation to change so he could SEE what he was doing..........
please think about this..........yes we hurt for our children when they have pain.......but do we protect them from the source of the pain or do we keep exposing them to it over and over in a quest to meet OUR OWN NEEDS?
all said with open honest love and support!