Hello Chero,
Well the wedding is over, and your hunny moon was a long time ago.
I was surprised at that he was still in the wedding.
With all that you have been through and what you are still going through, I would have made a change with that.
But that’s over.
It’s so easy to go back with what’s familiar.
It requires no effort.
No work.
Just be lazy and stick with what you know.
After all, it’s a loving thriving relationship.
You know I think the best way to really start moving away from that old relationship of doom, is to get a life.
I know that sounds simple but it DOES really hold true.
When this all started for me I really didn’t know what to do with myself. I had so much time on my hands.
It was all the time that I have spent taking care of another’s life, my alcoholic wife’s.
My sponsor helped me with this to a great measure. He kept me going to meetings, got me to be of service, and we even went to ball games.
I stayed very busy.
In time the draw was less to make contact.
I found that I did have a life. I mattered.
The constant obsessing and wondering about her soon started to fade.
I see many here who still spend most of their day worried, thinking, projecting about another, instead of living.
It must be shear HELL for some of you to wake up in the morning and have that worthless fool be all your thoughts, I know it was for me.
GET A LIFE! GET A LIFE!
If you don’t want to do for yourself, do for others. Volunteer your time; be of service, but STAY BUSY.
Are you not worth more?