I am from MN and I have hear a lot of people say that Minnesotans can be sort of clicky with their own groups. I guess I personally don't notice, but maybe I am just used to it! Anyway, I am sure it is not you that is making the other women stand-offish. It sounds as if it is just that particular group of women. That does sound frustrating though...you keep trying to reach out and you keep getting ignored. Maybe a new member will join who you can hang out with.