Dobiediva, I've decided it starts today, i congratulated him on his 6 months via text this morning, i've decided not to go to that meeting where he is getting his chip and have decided to go to Al Anon instead. I would like to see him get that but he also has kinda left it like i was more than welcome and not that he wanted me to go, so i've taken the hint and won't. He's not being rude or mean and i guess i should just appreciate that and give him his space like so many of you have said.