I[m a little late on this but wow Drained, you sure are alot different and stronger than when you first came on board! don't let him bully you!! What he says is a bunch of CR*P and you know it. For one thing, if he is in a substance abuse program of some sort, then all you have to do is have your lawyer subpeona his medical records to court in defense of your being the responsible parent. Ignore your AH's emails. If he has a problem, then have his lawyer contact your lawyer. At this point anything he says to you is manipulation pure and simple. I can tell he hasn't changed one iota, but YOU HAVE (and you go, girl!). Stay strong and move on with your life regardless of what choices he makes. HUGS