Thanks for your replies. My SIL has been going to alanon for a few months. She actually called into work this morning after all of the drama of the weekend and went to a meeting instead. My parents attended their first alanon meeting last week and plan on continuing going. I don't think it was what they expected. I think they expected to walk away with answers on how to "fix" the problem. They have done more research on alanon and understand it more now and are planning on going to weekly meetings. I should probably go to.
I think I saw in a post before something about the statistics on relapse when an A tries to quit on their own as opposed to with help. Does anyone have that info?