Drained Wife,
I wish you could see yourself thru my eyes. You have come SO FAR in such a short period of time. I am very proud of you.
This isnt easy, nor will everyday be a "strong" day.
You are dead right, your AH is trying to intimidate you into doing his bidding. First he tried wooing you with promises, now he is trying threats. Don't worry, they are worthless and empty. No judge will give him anything of real value. This situation has happened time and time again, threats, saying they have "information" on you that means they will get the house, car, kids, money etc. etc. He says it out of fear because he knows you have the upper hand and his life is suddenly not so comfortable. If he can just come home, he's sure he can manipulate you right back into the same situation as before.
Stay strong. Enforce the No Contact. Keep documentation of every time he breaks the RO. Talk to your lawyer daily. Above all, keep yourself and your children safe. Your AH is getting desperate now that he senses you are serious.
Big Hugs!