I just got back on here today.. been so busy of late...
I can only add this.. my experience is similar to Jwife's with MJ. I don't want it around or ppl who smoke it around me. My choice and my booundary.
However, this conversation came up at a party not too long ago and I said I wanted nuthing to do with any guys who smoked it or did any other illegal drugs. I also don't need an alcohlic for a relationship either (been there and done that.. doesn't work well).
anyhow, the comment that came out of this was, "If that is your boundary, expect to spend a lot of your life alone!" I did not respond but I thought to myself, "Isn't it a shame that mind altering drugs and alcohol have become so accepted in our culture."
I agree, my boundary on this has truly had me spend a LOT of time alone. However, that is OK with me... as I never again want to be hurt like I was with my XABF. If that is all that is left over when you are my age, then alone is looking darn good.