I have been thinking about this thread alot since it started and my only comment is that I don't want to be needed. I want to be wanted. I want people to spend time with me because they want to, not because they want me to do something for them.
I want a husband who is as self suffcient as a man can be and I pretty much have one. He might choose to lay back and let me do it all, but I want to know if I choose the same thing he will be doing the doing.
I want to be able to take a break and know that I will not starve. I want to be able to depend on my partner as much as he depends on me.
I "do" because he works harder (physically) and he loves being taken care of. It makes him feel loved.
Needed? Personally I feel like everyone is able and shouldn't need me.
Sick?
JT