Steve, I can't find common sense in your statements.
Nor recognition of a time-proven rule of thumb.
Think I am a stick in the mud, not at all. However my husband and I did not contract in our marriage to keep friends only opposite sex. I can go out to dinner, spend a weekend, 2 weeks with long term male friends if I want and I prefer he visit his former female friends without dragging me along.
But we don't have broken trust, irresponsibility, neglect, addiction issues.
However, my exabf just called a bit ago and was wishing I was there to run people off, esp exgfs and wanna-be gfs. He is an addict and has to put it kindly and lightly relationship problems. His 13th stepping and 14th stepping has pretty much ruined his chances at a good relationship.
And he is single!
When we are married we make a vow to forsake all other. Often mistaken as all others. It really means we forsake anything that would compromise or threaten our union. We promise to love, honor and cherish.....Want me to get out my several page booklet of our own researched and chosen vows?
That man has made a public, private and legal commitment to live by his vows.
They made their contract and now he wants to unilaterally break them.
FOUL! calls the ump