Welcome to SR. It's great that you are aware of your problem and that you want to stop. Maybe you and your husband could try going to some meetings together. I'm not married, but I can imagine it would be hard to stop if you're married to an alcoholic. Then again, if he's not willing to stop, you need to do what you need to do to get yourself sober. You can do it. Admitting you are powerless over alcohol is part of the first step.
BTW - and this is in noooo way meant to be mean, but I just have to mention it. I think "I am a smart drunk" is one of the best lines I have ever read on these boards. I know I used to think that way. I did my physics and chem problem sets drunk... positive the alcohol helped me think. I'd go to class with vodka in my water bottle... like no one could smell it. I've given presentations while drunk... certain that I never slurred my words. I'll just say my academic performance was less than stellar... I'm lucky I wan't kicked out of college.