I feel badly (almost) when my A was and is feeling guilty and showering me with nice things.....but I'm getting over it!
I don't "do" anything to "trick him" or take advantage, just accept on MY terms.
My AH was/is mean and angry when he drinks (and was passed out or impotent
)....when he felt (feels) badly about his behavior he acts the wy a loved one SHOULD and he once did act consistently. I enjoy it,the kids enjoy it (although I think one does manipulate it and I have reminded him that is wrong to do to a sick person) and exAH seems to feel better,too.
Really; it's sad, isn't it?