Spiritual Seeker really nailed it, for me. I am the mom of 2 addicts (one whose drug of choice is alcohol and pot). At different times, we had to kick them both out of our home.
They sofa surfed for a while, then figured out, eventually how to get what they needed.
Son went into an Oxford House - and Spiritual Seeker is right - he used the house rules and the community of recovery to keep himself sober for 18 months. When he decided to "go back out" - it was fully his choice and there was no blame on his parents.... for once.
Same with our daughter -she was in an Oxford House for nearly 2 months. She learned about HER responsibilities for paying rent and finding out how to get food.
At 36, you can do this. A sober house, a shelter, the street.... those choices are entirely yours. I hope you can find your way and take the chaos of your drinking away from your mom's life.