(((stayinalive)))
I'm a mom of a 22-year-old son who moved in 8 months ago after blowing up his own life.
I understand your mom doesn't want you to leave. She wants to protect you. It takes us moms a long time to understand that we didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it — and that we actually get in the way of our kids recovery, sometimes slowing it down without knowing. You know how when we moms find out our kid was beaten up by a bully, or had a schoolyard problem — how our getting smack in the middle of it just made it worse? Same thing.
In the beginning, your mom might still worry, and you might still struggle, but a sober or halfway house; 3/4 way house does sound like a great idea. Good luck! ~ Nitelite