I sooo needed to hear that.
No, you so needed to BELIEVE that ((((((())))))
Getting and staying sober and raising your children to be productive, contributing adults is something to be PROUD of!! And its the hardest job in the world. I admire your stength and determination.
When I told my husband, enough is enough, I was finally PROUD of myself. What fortidue and determination it took to PROVE I was not as I was perceived. The best part was I did it for ME. At the point of "putting my foot down" I was done letting him take that away from me.
I believe this should be pointed out to your adult children.
You are not the person you were when they throw this crap in your face. I would answer their "button pushing" with, " I did what I knew best at the time. When I knew better, I lived the last 13 years that way". I refuse to be thrown back into the past.
Nuff said
Believe in yourself girl, you done GOOD
Peace