One of the best lessons I learned in Al Anon is this
"What other people think about me is none of my business.". Neither are their reactions or responses. I've learned tell someone my opinion IF they ask for it, and I have learned to make reqeusts and to let go of the outcomes. Once I got out of other peoples' heads and just spent time on MY stuff, my life got better.
I still mess up, but I really don't let other people's opinions of me have any power....
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