Letting go is so hard, Abby, but sometimes it's the only way. Sometimes they have to hit bottom.
I know for me I tried anything and everything to ensure AH didn't drive drunk. I almost got myself run over once, I lost an entire set of truck keys, and I was an emotional wreck trying to control him.
Then I came here and found out I wasn't responsible for him. I didn't have to control him or any situation and if I wanted out...I knew the way!
Good Luck!