i'm so sorry you're going through this. my ex went to several treatment facilities and repeatedly relapsed. some become sober, some don't. i don't think there's any way to tell what will work for her, or if anything will work. i like to think there's hope for everyone, but they have to want it... badly. unfortunately, us wanting them to clean up their act seems to have no effect on them. i'm sorry that you're here, i wish i could tell you that it gets easier...