When my grandson was born, Keith loved him too. As time went by, he came to resent the baby[little did I know that he was using and didn't want any thing else in his life but drugs]. I felt torn, I loved him, he needed me, Xander needed me, my daughter needed me, my mom....I had no time for me....Well, Keith is gone, my daughter is in a hell of her own making, my mom continues to be a big help with watching Xander when I work but she needs constant reinforcememt regarding the fact that we cannot fix my daughter therefore I don't want to discuss what she should or should not do, and even with working, lugging the baby around and chasing him, I am finding I actually have time and money to care for me. We are not being selfish when we take care of ourselves, If we aren't well, we arent good for anyone...Take care of yourself first....Love you...Marian