It was at this point in my relationship with exAH that I kept him at arm's length - wouldn't take his calls, rarely answered his emails. I think some of them let themselves spiral thinking that the codie will come save them. IMO to save them it must be made clear that no cavalry is coming. He's on his own baby, just like the rest of us poor schlubs.
Life on life's terms, mon. That includes all the As and codies in the world
BTW mine seems to be doing well now that he's working the program. Of course it's that or jail lol